an affair is not a love story. It's not romantic. It's an ugly, painful, betrayal that hurts everyone involved.
Prescott, WI (PRWEB) May 21, 2008
Marriage Fidelity Day founder, Penny Tupy, professional marriage coach and author of Overcoming Infidelity - Intervention and Protection Phases, calls Oprah, Walters, and the news media to task for its cavalier treatment of infidelity in marriage.
"It's a travesty when the season finale for a show as campy as Desperate Housewives features an impassioned plea for marital fidelity and honesty - complete with tragic tales of what happens when parents cheat and then leave the nest, says Tupy, "but our role models brush off their indiscretions with little or no apparent thought for the destruction left in the wake."
Infidelity affects somewhere between sixty and eighty percent of marriages in the US. Behind those numbers are real, live, breathing, human beings whose lives have been shattered by betrayal. "It's time we stop sugar coating the betrayal of marital vows," says Tupy, "an affair is not a love story. It's not romantic. It's an ugly, painful, betrayal that hurts everyone involved."
Tupy founded Marriage Fidelity Day in 2004 to raise awareness of the effects on infidelity on individuals, children, families, and society and to honor those who have remained faithful to their vows or who have recovered their marriages after an affair. Tupy hopes to see more people raising their voices in support of integrity - insisting media and those in the spotlight become more responsible in their discussion of this topic. Marriage Fidelity Day is September 15 but, as Tupy says, every day counts.
A member of the Save Your Marriage Central (SYMC) online forum, had this to say about the Oprah show exchange between Oprah and Walters as they reminisced about their experiences as the other woman,," People who have not experienced infidelity will not understand how watching Barbara Walters casually talk about her affair, with no remorse, for me is like watching someone recount raping someone as a once pleasant memory." Another stated, "The interracial spin she put on it, made her appear like a freedom fighter instead of an adulterer. Who cares what color he was? He was married with children!"
Tupy, who runs the SYMC online forum for marriages in crisis, insists it is time for America's role models to stop buying into the fantasy glitz and glamour of infidelity and to start telling the real story - the story of shattered dreams and shattered lives. Tupy says with irony that if Desperate Housewives can get it right then there's no reason we shouldn't hold our news media and role models to a higher standard.
About Penny R Tupy:
Professional marriage coach and expert on infidelity, addiction and abuse, Penny Tupy is the visionary creator of Marriage Fidelity Day, the founder of Save Your Marriage Central, and author of Overcoming Infidelity - Intervention and Protection Phases which outlines in detail what every spouse must know about how to deal with a partner's affair.
Penny is available to answer these and other questions regarding infidelity:
What to do immediately upon discovering a partner's affair
How a betrayed partners sabotages the ending of an affair
How to tell if it's more than a garden variety affair and possibly sexual addiction
What steps are essential for healing self and marriage
To interview Penny call 651.775.8302 or email penny.tupy(at)yahoo.com