Plan for the holidays and avoid some of the inevitable issues.
Beachwood, Ohio (PRWEB) December 13, 2012
Your Teen magazine today released its free "Holiday Survival Guide," which parents can reference to reduce the holiday stress that can be nightmarish at times and improve family expectations for parents and teens alike.
“As a parent, the holidays can be extremely stressful, especially when dealing with a teenager,” Editor in Chief/ Publisher Susan Borison says. “With the guide, parents can plan for the holidays and avoid some of the inevitable issues.”
From teen drinking to gift giving and more, Your Teen’s “Holiday Survival Guide” is a one-stop read for parents of teens. The guide includes expert advice from Scott Schlachter, a licensed clinical social worker and Irene van der Zande, executive director of KidPower.
Ready for Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and New Year’s Eve?
Download the free guide here:
- Underage drinking during the holidays
- Unappreciative teens
- Outlining expectations for your teenager
- Managing family time
- Teens and their social interaction with family and other adults
- Dealing with holiday stress
- Social media’s perception of the “perfect” holiday
Here are some examples from van der Zande:
Let Teens Be Teens:
Arm your teenagers with the same skills adults use to make nice in social situations. “It can be helpful to teach your teenager some boundary setting techniques,” explains van der Zande. For example, a guest may ask your teenager a rude or otherwise aggravating question like:
“Did you gain some weight?”
“Why would you major in that?”
“You don’t have a job yet?”
It’s an opportunity to teach your teenager to change the subject graciously. “People will find things to pick on, but you can give your teenager permission to ignore intrusive questions. Tell your kids to smile and say, “I’d rather not talk about that. Let’s talk about …” and then redirect to another subject (make sure they’ve come up with a list in advance).
Schlachter suggests asking yourself questions like these in advance:
“What are you looking for?”
“Are you looking for a thank you?”
“Are you looking for them to help you out around the house?”
If they don’t do that already and it’s important to you, then I would sit down and say to them: “Look you will get a gift from Grandpa. Even if you don’t like it, please say ‘thank you’ because that’s the nice thing to do. It’s the thought that counts.” If you’re having a party at your house, you can say, “This is what I need from you.” Maybe it’s housework or helping with the guests. Whatever it is, I would do that a day or two before the event because they may be making plans. But, yes, let them know this is your expectation. This is what I need you to do. You shouldn’t just wait for your teenager to make a choice you’re happy with.
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