Parents don’t need to be pitied or saved. It’s not a schools job to solve problems, just listen and be supportive.
Farmington Hills, Michigan (PRWEB) September 24, 2012
During the school year, and especially at back to school time, it's not uncommon for parents to receive information regarding what they can do to improve their relationship with schools. From decades of working with parents, Parent Action for Healthy Kids shares parents' thoughts and offers these 10 things parents would like schools to know.
1. Parents value authenticity. Be a person first and an educator second.
2. Shaming and blaming is a sure fire way to keep parents from coming back.
3. Please don’t judge. Things are not always as they appear.
4. Raising a family is fun but also stressful. Parents don’t need to be pitied or saved. It’s about relationships. It’s not a schools job to solve problems, please just listen and be supportive.
5. Don’t assume that what a school believes a parent needs to know is what a parent believes they need to know.
6. Instead of telling a parent what they should be involved in, ask parents how we would like to and are able to be involved.
7. “Our babies don’t keep” – Please understand the emotional reactions of parents. Parents only get one chance with their kids. They worry and often feel powerless and inadequate. Please know that under the anger is intense fear.
8. If schools want parents to work within their system, be a buddy and show parents the ropes. Tell them about the unspoken rules and the way school business is conducted.
9. If a parent survey is conducted at school, tell parents what was done with the information and how it improved what schools are doing for kids.
10. Parents don’t want to tell a school how they should run their school business. Parents desire a leader who can communicate effectively and are decisive about what is in the best interest of kids.
Barb Flis, Founder of Parent Action for Healthy Kids, is an advocate for parents, and a published parenting and children’s health expert. Her focus lies in connecting families, schools and communities for the purpose of promoting the well-being of children’s social, emotional and physical health. Her “parent-to-parent” approach has garnered her much praise and national media attention. Visit http://www.ParentActionForHealthyKids.org for more information.