Top 10 Ridiculous Myths About Picking Up Women
New York, NY (PRWEB) October 05, 2009
PUA Forums today released the "Top 10 Ridiculous Myths About Picking Up Women" in an effort to help men find the women of their dreams.
1. A man has to be very attractive to meet women.
This just simply is NOT the case. If a man is well groomed, and wears clothes that fit and look good he can attract women. He must also have a positive outlook and have good body language. Being 'very attractive' may help him initially, but it means much, much less than people realize.
2. It takes a lot of money to attract women.
This also is simply not true. The best pick up artist in NYC had about $40 to live on one month. He didn't waste money on expensive drinks when he went out (he did have a few, but mostly it was pre-gaming at a house). The key is to not act poor - but that doesn't mean it takes flashing money or wearing expensive items to attract women.
3. A guy needs to say the perfect thing all the time.
This actually can really hurt someones game. It is much better to say something not perfect and have good tonality and body language than to wait and think and wait and think and then eventually say the 'perfect thing'. That is just way too hard and comes across as weird.
4. A perfect pick up line is required to go talk to a hot woman.
There is no such thing as a perfect pick up line. Just talking to a woman is sufficient if the conversation is interesting or about something that is socially relevant or enhances her overall experience in whatever she is doing. Saying a "pick up line" just as a pick up line is stupid.
5. A man should not hang out with or be seen around other men who are more attractive than him as women will want the other men.
Actually being around attractive guys boosts a mans attractiveness level greatly. People subconsciously associate a persons value with who they are around. It is almost the same as if women see a man with an attractive woman -- they automatically raise the value of that man.
6. Men should not compliment women, instead they should try to 'neg' her or bring her down to their level.
The teachings at PUAForums.com do not encourage use of the 'neg' as it is used in pick up today. Instead, it is better to boost her value (up to yours) by noticing something unique about her and complimenting her on it. It is much better to playfully tease a woman, so try to pick something about her that is good and tease her about it. This is much better than using a creative line. It is important not not pick something that she is going to be self conscious about as this will just generate a negative response.
7. A guy should speak to a woman within 3 seconds of seeing her (the famous 3 second rule).
This rule makes a lot of sense for people with super high approach anxiety or who lack situational and social confidence. A much better strategy is to use the warm approach technique. A warm approach is where the guy establishes a non-verbal connection via body language and more importantly eye contact. Done properly, eye contact can be the best opener possible.
8. A guy is just bugging a woman if he 'hits' on her.
OK - Hitting on women is creepy, but if a man goes up and engages in interesting conversation with a woman, she will enjoy it. Many very attractive women say that they wish that more guys talked to them (both when they are out at night, and even during the day). It is about giving love and value... and all women love that.
9. Meeting women should be considered a job and requires hard work.
If this is a guys attitude, he is probably having very little if any success with women. His attitude needs to be about going to go out and having a great time and talking to people because it is fun. He may talk to some guys, he may talk to some girls - but it should be enjoyable for everyone involved. When talking to women, he needs to evaluate if they are interesting enough for him to want to talk to later and if so, he shouldl get their number and set up a day 2. That is not work.
10. A good guy can go 10/10 when picking up women (they can get 10 women attracted to them out of 10 approaches).
This simply is a lie put forth by the men who are the so called 'experts' in the community. Some of the best pick up artists in the world get completely blown out of set. The simple fact of life and humans is that not everyone is interested in everyone else. That is why there is always someone for everyone. The key is to have fun, meet as many cool interesting people as possible and see where that path takes you. This advice is sure to help you achieve whatever you are seeking.
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