(PRWEB) June 02, 2012
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD offers advice to parents if they suspect their child is a victim of cyber bullying.
Recently a 12 year old hung himself due to bullying (http://tinyurl.com/cso4k4q). Kids can be very cruel. Bullying makes self esteem go down and we need peer acceptance. Nobody likes to be humiliated and be made a spectacle. Schools need to take more of a stance on this and something should be done. Its unacceptable that somebody treats somebody differently to make themselves feel better.
A McAfee report states there is a more than 50 percent chance that parents don’t know what is going on in their children’s online lives—yet more than half of the kids in a study by CyberBulling.us recognized that cyber bullying is as bad or worse than bullying in real life. The McAfee study reports, “Cyber Bullying also remains a problem for many teens, with 22 percent saying they would not know what to do if they were bullied online.”
“Cyber Bullying is more serious than person-to-person taunting. The threats can be more vicious, and there is more shame involved. Because more people are exposed, Cyber Bullying is global humiliation, making the victim more vulnerable and feeling attacked,” warns Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie advises parents to tell kids that it is not their fault if they are being targeted, and teach them that they need to ask for help. Summer is a great time to get started with conversations with kids to avoid being a bully and learn what to do if they are the one being bullied when school starts up again in the fall.
Parents need to keep an eye on their children’s Internet and texting activity and teach good electronic etiquette. “One of the best defenses against children bullying is to teach empathy. Put them in the shoes of someone they might be criticizing or gossiping about.” With kids communicating electronically, reactions to comments are not seen. Therefore, a child may not develop healthy communication skills. This is where the parent comes in,” advises Dr. Bonnie.
Thirty-three percent of kids say they have been a victim of Cyber Bullying in one way or another. Of these, 41 percent don’t tell anyone in their off-screen lives about the abuses. “It is important that kids understand that Cyber Bullying is just as upsetting as being bullied in “real life” and it’s just as important to seek help if they’ve fallen prey to that behavior,” reminds Dr. Bonnie.
For parents hoping to help their kids with these issues—and looking to change the perception of bullying in their community at large—the website bullypolice.org is a good resource. Dr. Bonnie is a featured speaker on the site and lives in New York where there are currently no anti-bullying laws on the books.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, an internationally acclaimed couples, children and family therapist, was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists. New York Magazine recognizes Dr. Bonnie as one of the city’s best therapists.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, holds a PhD in family play therapy which is a technique and treatment she developed which was written up for her thesis and published. She was also asked by Hunters school of social work to teach family play therapy. Dr. Bonnie worked as a child therapist at Long Beach Mental Health clinic working with children, teens, and parents. She has been quoted in NY Post, Daily News, Toronto Sun, USA Today and Ladies Home Journal on topics relating to children, teens and parents. She has also been in Parenting magazine and on their website.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on Oprah five times, was the featured guest in a three day series on the The Today show, and has been a guest on Fox, O’Reilly Report, CNN, 20/20, The View, Good Morning America, CBS Health Watch, CBS, ABC, NBC, Better TV, and Fox News.
Dr. Bonnie is a regular contributor as the relationship expert in Ladies Home Journal and was featured in the “Can This Marriage Be Saved” column three consecutive months. Her work has appeared in Redbook, Good Housekeeping, Men’s Health, the New York Magazine. Parenting Magazine and USA Today have used Dr. Bonnie’s expert advice to support features. Numerous other local and national media outlets have interviewed Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is the author of five books with two best seller’s Make Up Don’t Break Up, now out in paperback, and Adultery the Forgivable Sin, which became a made-for television movie. Her recent book, Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker, Penguin Group, is now available in paperback.