San Mateo, Calif. (PRWEB) January 17, 2013
The best and most effective dating advice for guys that exists incorporates guidelines for adopting alpha male behavior, as emphasized by Dating Expert Carlos Xuma in his new report.
“This is pretty much the key to any and all types of success in the dating world,” Xuma says. “Any guy who can adopt alpha male traits and make them a natural part of his personality is bound to find success with women.”
In fact, Xuma says, a guy who successfully emulates the right alpha male behavior will see a surge of success in every area of his life: dating, work, other personal relationships.
“Alpha male traits have been misunderstood and underestimated for a long time in this society,” Xuma says. “When a guy gets them right, he can’t lose.”
The problem, Xuma explains in the report on men's dating advice, is that too many men confuse jerk qualities with alpha male traits.
“Being selfish, arrogant, and a bully are not alpha male characteristics,” Xuma explains. “Being a leader, confident, and nurturing, however, are typical traits of the alpha male. Unfortunately there aren’t a lot of men who get this difference. That makes the men who do correctly exhibit alpha male behavior seem even more rare and desirable.”
The alpha male in any society is also the one who won’t put up with bad behavior by others and has high, exacting standards, Xuma says in his report on dating advice for guys.
“The alpha male is the guy who isn’t afraid to tell others that if they treat him badly, he will not allow them in his life,” Xuma says. “This isn’t being a jerk, but it is also the opposite of being a pushover. Standing up for oneself doesn’t mean a guy is a bully. Standing up for oneself shows self-respect and standards. Too many people can’t quite figure out this distinction.”
That is why so many guys say that nice guys finish last. Nice guys don’t finish last, but men who think that being a nice guy means being a pushover and setting another person’s wants and needs above his own will finish last, Xuma says.
“There is a definite lack of understanding on what being an alpha male is, but at the same time, there is just as much confusion on what being a nice guy means,” Xuma says in his report on dating advice for guys. “In reality, an alpha male will also be the genuinely nicest male in the room; he just won’t put up with any funny business.”
Carlos Xuma been a dating expert and attraction adviser for more than 10 years and has appeared on ABC and CBS television, as well as Playboy radio. Xuma is the author of The Bad Boy Formula, Secrets of the Alpha Male, the Girlfriend Training Program, and numerous other books and articles. He has spent years teaching hundreds of men dating advice for guys, including how to attract and approach women, and how to talk to talk to women.
Carlos Xuma shares dating advice for men on his website at http://www.datingdynamics.com