In the wake of a divorce, more than anything, spouses need hope for the future. Divorcees have a choice: use the energy from a broken marriage to grieve or use it to piece together meaning.
(PRWEB) October 03, 2012
Nicole Kidman’s divorce experience sheds light on two of the keys to coping with grief after a divorce: salvaging good memories about the relationship and being willing to forgive.
Faith-based website, followme.org, released that statement today in response to a revealing new interview with Australia’s WHO Magazine. In that interview, Kidman confesses to experiencing deep depression after the end of her 11-year marriage to Tom Cruise, according to a CBS News report from Wednesday.
The 45-year-old actress told WHO that she experienced her “loneliest, loneliest existence” in the wake of her divorce from Cruise in 2001, according to CBS News. Part of that pain involved doubting she would ever find love again: “There was a long time when I never thought it would happen for me again,” CBS News reports.
How has Kidman managed to overcome the pain caused by her divorce from Cruise? When it comes to recalling her marriage, she chooses to separate the good from the bad, she tells WHO.
“I married (Tom) really fast and really young, but I don’t regret it because it got me Bella and Connor [her two children], and I did have a fantastic marriage for a long period,” Kidman tells WHO. “Then when it didn’t work out, I had to really dig deep and find my way through depression, but I have no regrets about all of it. It was all a part of growing up.”
What can the millions of Americans wrestling with divorce learn from Kidman’s confessions? Followme.org is a faith-based website that provides resources for those considering the reasons for divorce and coping with grief after a divorce. Its leaders seem to suggest that those struggling with divorce can learn a lot from Kidman’s wisdom, celebrity or not.
“In the wake of a divorce, more than anything, spouses need hope for the future. Divorcees have a choice: use the energy from a broken marriage to grieve or use it to piece together meaning. Kidman chose to search for hope, and she has managed to move past a painful divorce as a result,” said Pastor Jamie of followme.org.
“Reconciliation and forgiveness are the hardest things to find after a divorce—and the most important,” he said.
Kidman would seem to agree with Pastor Jamie’s observation. She describes her current state in the interview. “[W]ith Tom, it was a fantastic decade. I wish all of the people that have been involved in my life well, because it’s very important to me to be in a place of forgiveness and love,” she tells WHO.
Kidman is featured on the cover of the magazine’s 20th-anniversary issue, which hits shelves later this month.
For more information, visit http://www.followme.org.