New York, New York (PRWEB) February 12, 2014
"Being single as a sensitive person can be challenging," says Life Coach Adelma Lilliston. Sensitive people feel things more deeply, have richer relationships and a deeper understanding of themselves and others. They also can get hurt more easily in love and can take longer to recover.
Adelma can relate. As a sensitive person, she struggled with how a harsh tone or a misunderstanding could cause her to tense up and retreat in relationships or the corporate environment. Taught to stifle her reactions and smile, the feelings built up in intimate and family relationships until they became untenable.
As fate would have it, a serious kidney problem forced her to take a step back and learn to manage her sensitivity in a way that finally created the life and love she desired. Inspired, she became a coach for smart, sensitive people who are not getting what they need to get healthy and live their dreams.
Adelma says, “Love and dating as a sensitive person can be really beautiful. The secret is to embrace this sensitivity and create a life architecture in which you flourish.”
For those seeking love, she offers the following tips to thrive as a sensitive person.
1. Focus on quality over quantity.
“A lot of people will tell you to just get out there and date lots of people,” says Adelma. While this may work for people with thick skin, she does not think it works for those who are more sensitive.
Stop forcing yourself to do things you hate, hoping to meet the right person. It drains you and often leads to frustration. Focusing instead on quality, on the activities and people that you truly enjoy, makes your experience much more beautiful.
To do this she suggests setting up your life in a way that allows you to thrive physically, mentally and emotionally by creating your Life Architecture so that life becomes joy.
This naturally attracts the right person.
2. Embrace your sensitivity as the great asset that it is. Reveal who you are and what you desire early on, either in dating profiles or in person, to attract people who appreciate this quality.
3. When a relationship does not work out with someone, remember that it is probably not about you. Most people know what they need and are capable of handling. If they need something else or are not ready for you it will not work. Think of it like this: imagine the person is looking for a green-purple martian. If you are not a green-purple martian, then it is simply not a fit. Let it go and focus on what qualities you desire in your next relationship.
Joy & Brussels Sprouts serves the legions of smart, driven, passionate professional women and men out there who are not getting what they need. Together, we create a "Life Architecture" to live your dreams. Clients begin with a 1 hour Breakthrough Session to discuss their goals, what is getting in the way and how coaching helps make them a reality. If it is a fit, Adelma develops a custom program for each client. Most programs are 6 months because change takes time. Smaller packages are also available. Sessions are in Midtown New York and Worldwide via Skype.
Professionally, Adelma has always been at the crossroads of wellness, personal development and strategy. Prior to this venture she worked for a major multinational corporation on the Dove Self-Esteem Campaign and co-developed the Above the Influence Campaign for the Partnership for a Drug-Free America.
She received her integrative health coaching training at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. She also holds a BA from Barnard and an MBA from Yale.