Tables Turned: Higher-Earning Women Now Paying Alimony to Ex-Husbands

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The "manimony" trend continues to rise, according to a recent local ABC TV news report with Bari Weinberger of Weinberger Law Group, with more women finding they need to pay alimony to their former husbands at the time of legal separation or divorce.

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Bari Weinberger Discusses The Manimony Trend

“Women today are naturally more dominant in the workforce than they’ve ever been and their traditional role of stay-at-home mother has evolved,” says Bari Weinberger of Weinberger Law Group.

Women are now the top income earners in one-third of all marriages. But when some of these marriages end in divorce — as an estimated 50 percent do -- it’s creating a new and growing trend: ex-wives who are required to pay their former husbands alimony and child support.

Nicknamed “manimony” or “malimony”, according to Bari Weinberger, managing partner of the New Jersey-based divorce and family law firm, Weinberger Law Group, women paying support is no longer just limited to famous women like Madonna and Halle Berry.

“Women today are naturally more dominant in the workforce than they’ve ever been and their traditional role of stay-at-home mother has evolved,” says Weinberger.

Statistics back Ms. Weinberger's observations. In a recent poll conducted by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, more than half, 56 percent, of divorce lawyers across the United States report an increase in mothers paying child support to fathers in the last three years and 47 percent note a rise in the number of women making monthly alimony payments to their ex-husbands.

Alimony reform has been a hot button issue lately in many states, including New Jersey. The efforts to change spousal support laws have been mostly led by men who feel that many permanent alimony awards are unduly burdensome.

"Permanent alimony is often fixed when you have a long term marriage and a disparity of income between the two spouses," Weinberger explains.

So do the women, who are now paying, view alimony differently than their male counterparts? In a recent TV interview with New York’s ABC 7 news, Weinberger says that, just like many men, a lot of women do not feel very gracious when they learn they will have to pay alimony.

"They are not having it. They think that there is no reason that if they are out and they are working and they are doing what they need to do, that their spouse can't be equally self-sufficient," says Weinberger.

In New Jersey, alimony is automatically terminated upon a payee’s remarriage. Depending on state laws, permanent or lifetime alimony can typically be amended if the higher wage earning spouse retires and makes less money, or if the former spouse who is receiving alimony experiences a substantial financial increase in one form or another. Support is virtually always subject to modification.

In the meantime, women will need to keep current on payments or face legal repercussions. And as for the ex-husbands receiving these “manimony” payments from their ex-wives? Weinberger actually finds that some men are embarrassed to receive them.

For more information regarding divorce and alimony issues in New Jersey, the attorneys at Weinberger Law Group, or any of the other family law issue, contact the firm at 888-888-0919 or visit the firm's website at

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