Asheville, NC (PRWEB) August 27, 2007
This groundbreaking book is for anyone who answers yes to any of these questions, 1) Are you living together now? 2) Are you thinking about living together? 3) Is your live-in relationship getting rocky? 4) Do you know someone who needs help with their live-in relationship? 5) Do you want to know more about reasons for and the risks of cohabitating? 6) Do you want to strengthen your live-in relationship?
The book is extremely insightful and fun while providing a clear, step-by-step method to apply winning business strategies to create a winning live-in relationship. The book defines 20 types of Unmarried Couples in 4 categories from low to high risk such as Young & In-love, Pregnant & Pressured, Pre-wedding Convenience Seekers, Ring-less Biological Parents, Trial Marriage Practitioners and Anti-marriage Advocates.
The strategies in the book help couples in, 1) finding a common vision for the relationship - before the shock that can happen after moving in together, 2) writing measurable objectives - to define why the relationship exists & how to productively re-evaluate the relationship on a regular basis to either end it, constructively, or deepen it, 3) developing a relationship "brand" - a "love logo" to head off the judgments & criticisms of friends & family before they start, 4) merging "mindstyles" - to eliminate common battles like how to spend the holidays, what to do with household possessions or coping with children from other relationships, 5) creating clear job descriptions - that pinpoint each partner's chores around the house to prevent battles over simple things like who takes out the trash!... and much, much more!
"Happily Un-married" explains the meteoric rise in cohabitation and shows how to strengthen the relationship of the millions of couples living together! The risks are great since cohabiting couples have twice the breakup rate of married couples and 40% bring kids into these often-shaky relationships. Despite these terrible odds, the number of unmarried couples living together has increased tenfold between 1960-2000 and couples living together has increased 72% between 1990-2000 alone.
Dr. Curtis foresees a surge in cohabitation since 75% of high schoolers think living together is a worthwhile and harmless alternative, and there has been little, if any, public opposition to cohabitation. It is now more widely accepted than divorce or having a child out of wedlock. Nearly 50% of all children will spend some time in a cohabiting family before age 16. Not unlike previous generations, the vast majority of young people today want to marry and have children. However, unlike any past generation, most see living together as a logical "next step" before walking down the aisle or as an alternative to ever marrying.
All indications are that cohabitation will become a common feature in our society and the basis for a legitimate new form of family union. Dr. Curtis points out that in light of this reality, the logical response is to work to strengthen the institution of cohabitation not condemn it. It is still uncertain if cohabitation is a long-term permanent trend or merely part of a multi-generational cycle that will ultimately "fizzle out" due to a loss of interest and lack of perceived benefit.
Contact information: Dr. John Curtis • http://www.cohabitating.org • 1.828.246.0459.