Couples Must Get Counseling Before Marrying or Divorcing if Bill Passes

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD endorses the recently introduced Wyoming bill requiring couples attempting to get married or divorced, to go through counseling together beforehand, and pay for it themselves. "Most couples do not have coping or communication skills, and counseling can introduce these tools before couples make life altering decisions," Dr. Weil explains

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD endorses the recent bill introduced in Wyoming by Representative Ed Buchanan requiring couples attempting to get married or divorced, to go though counseling together beforehand, and pay for it themselves ( ).

“As a relationship therapist, I find it disturbing that divorce is not the last resort for many couples today. Divorce is merely an item on the menu of unfortunate remedies when the going gets tough. Living in different quarters, separating, or staying together under duress creates unbearable stress for kids. And, children suffer long term fallout from the quick flick of the pen across the divorce paper than ends their childhood, as they knew it, forever,” says Dr. Bonnie

According to the proposed bill, if couples refuse the counseling mandate, they would legally have to wait a year to get a marriage license or divorce decree, at least slowing down the process of making a key life decision.

“In my counseling practice, I see the devastating effects of couples who’s planned a lifetime together, confused, dejected and depressed to find heir best laid dreams torn up in divorce court. People don’t get married with divorce as a goal. Unfortunately couples don’t often seek counseling until their marriage is limping on its last leg, beaten down by resentment, anger and frustration.”

Dr. Weil reports that most unresolved relationship issues leading to a break up occur from the lack of using “Smart Heat Skills” and dialogue outlined in her book, “Make Up Don’t Break Up” with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying in Love.
Dr. Bonnie also teaches couples fighting fair tools, and listening to each other with empathy when discussing relationship issues.

“Using Smart Heart dialogue is the glue that keeps a new relationship together and renews it when the relationship gets older. People are not taught these communication skills in school, church, and most likely not from their family of origin,” explains Dr. Weil.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Infidelity" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at


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