Colorado Company to Use Haunted Location to Improve Couple Communication

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The haunted Stanley Hotel in Estes park, Colorado will host Being Heard's inaugural couples retreat October 26-29, 2012 where partners learn the negative patterns that maintain unhealthy relationships.

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For couples, exploring new journeys can be scary and powerful at the same time.

Ghost hunters say The Stanley Hotel is one of the 10 most haunted hotels in the world. The hotel, featured yearly on television's paranormal investigation shows, will be the site this Halloween weekend of Being Heard's inaugural couples retreat, "Hunting for the Ghosts of Your Past". Opened in the Rocky Mountain town of Estes Park, Colorado by F.O. "Stanley Steamer" Stanley, the hotel is said to be the inspiration for Stephen King's "The Shining". The long and elegant career of The Stanley -- it's on The National Register of Historic Places and a member of The National Trust for Historic Hotels -- may add to its purported ghostly infestation, and may account for why some still call it home after 100 years.

The location compliments Being Heard's ghost-hunting theme. "We're not looking to scare couples into each others' arms," smiles Kathe Skinner, principal and co-owner of Being Heard. "We're tapping into the intensity of The Stanley to point out how reality is formed by absorbing thoughts, beliefs, and experiences in our families of origin. When couples form, those individual realities collide, keeping partners as stuck in place as The Stanley's ghosts."

Ten years ago, psychologists Jeffrey Young and Janet Kosko illuminated a template for recognizing dysfunctional thoughts based on early experiences (schemas), understanding their impact on feelings, and indicating a way to change behavior. "Schema work gives couples a directional nudge, gets them off their butts, moving and unstuck. Exploring new and different directions,l resuming those individual and couple journeys, is incredibly scary, and powerful at the same time," maintains Skinner.

"Achieving a better relationship is notoriously challenging, so our idea is to provide clients with a luxurious, interesting, and relaxing venue where powerful work doesn't compete with daily life," adds David Skinner, co-owner and co-instructor at Being Heard. "Because each retreat focuses on one aspect of relationship health, we work at matching themes to destinations, like pairing wedding vows with Las Vegas. We're proving that couples work doesn't have to be unpleasant."

Couples at Being Heard's Stanley Hotel Halloween Retreat hunt for what haunts their relationships, shining light on schemas (ghosts), and daring to call them out. The company plans to harness The Stanley Hotel's power as couples negotiate the maze of old thinking and create new behaviors.

About Being Heard
Formalized in 2004, Being Heard is proud of a twelve-year record of teaching couples communication skills. Products include an expanded Couples Communcation workshop, Destination Retreats for Couples, Relationship Coaching, and Schema Workshops. Products are innovated and developed by Relationship Coach Kathe Skinner, a 16-year veteran Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Relationship Specialist, and are taught by husband-and-wife relationship educators Kathe and David Skinner.

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