All marriages need work to stay strong and people are often too quick to rush into divorce at the first sign of problems.
London, UK (PRWEB UK) 26 March 2013
According to a recent study published in Scientific American (http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=is-divorce-bad-for-children), only a relatively small percentage of children experience significant problems after their parents divorce, and so is the concept of staying together for the kids outdated and unnecessary? When relationship problems get too big to solve, some couples stay together for the sake of the kids, whilst others believe it’s better to go their separate ways, and have two happy homes instead of one strained family. With this dilemma in mind, Yourwellness Magazine asked its readers; should you stay together for the children?
For reader Daniel, divorce causes significant stress on a child and is best avoided if possible. “All marriages need work to stay strong and people are often too quick to rush into divorce at the first sign of problems. Agreeing to stay together until the children have grown up may give you the time you need to work through your issues.” He added that children of divorce can feel the strain of seeing one parent less, moving house, changing schools and adapting to a new step-family, which leads to anxiety, depression and behavioural problems further down the line.
However, Louise argued that children may do better with, and even enjoy, two happy households than a miserable one where the parents dislike each other. “Children are very perceptive and even if you think you’ve successfully hidden your problems from them, they have probably picked up on your unhappiness. Living within a strained household is very stressful for children, and if you are constantly unhappy, angry or tearful, they may blame themselves.” She also noted that parents have an obligation to their own wellbeing to call it a day if there’s no other way to resolve their problems, as they won’t be able to be good parents and role models for their kids if they are trapped in an unhappy marriage.
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