Instead of saying, 'Who cares?' Why not say, What can I do to be there for you?' or 'How can I learn to be a better wife or husband or parent or child?
national (PRWEB) March 25, 2013
According to the United Nations Statistics Division which collects official data on marriage and divorce from over 200 countries on an annual basis, United States rank #5 in the world in having one of the highest divorce rates.
Recent studies by the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention) indicated that the ratio of new marriages to divorce is 2:1. That means, for every 2 new marriages, there is 1 divorce case happening.
This is one of the highest numbers recorded in the US.
What is the reason why divorce rates are increasing?
"One of the reasons is the complete lack of marriage education." explained marital expert and matchmaker extraordinaire Hellen Chen.
"There are classes for sciences and technologies and the study of human behavior but there are actually no lessons taught to a young person about how to fulfill the role of a husband or wife." said Chen, who has written 20 books on marriage and relationships and who has traveled around the globe giving seminars on marriage management.
"People generally know more about their iPhones than how to be a spouse." Chen smiled.
It seemed that 50 or 60 years ago, there were more informal education shared by well-meaning grandparents and parents and even relatives about the role of a man and a woman in a family. Schools and churches pass on education about the responsibility of maintaining good relations at home.
Yet, as science and technology progresses, the emphasis on academic achievements leaned more and more heavily on whether you are getting the right answers to a test and what kind of jobs you would have when you graduate. Unfortunately the much needed subtle art of managing a relationship and how to be a wife or husband is seldom taught except in certain homes.
"There is nothing wrong to be a top A student and get top grades. But you have to invest the same energy to learn about one of the most important parts of our adult life: marriage. I have not met any person who had not at one point dreamed about having that perfect love." said Chen.
To increase marriage education and awareness for the public, Chen started a national “I Am There For You" Movement. This movement is about promoting families and marital education.
Chen said, "We have been taught to walk away from problems. If you don't like a job, quit. If you don't like your parent, just stop talking to them. If you don't like your spouse, divorce. Thus this campaign encourages people to take a different attitude. Instead of saying, 'Who cares?' Why not say, What can I do to be there for you?' or 'How can I learn to be a better wife or husband or parent or child?"
Having brought together many married couples who had been resistive about marriage in the first place and then helping them to stay in marriage afterwards, Chen also shares real-life stories in her latest book "The Matchmaker of the Century" which has become a number one bestseller in marriage books at Barnes and Noble.
"Marriage infidelity, conflicts on money, the lack of romance etc could all be resolved a lot sooner before heading towards the divorce courts. Husband and wives need to learn communication skills which unfortunately are not taught in our schools." said Chen.
Those who would like to learn about how to create a stable family environment and a stable marriage can visit the site: http://www.MatchmakerOfTheCentury.com
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