(PRWEB) October 23, 2013
Each month, online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) examines statistics and trends in divorce filings. During the company's end-of-month report for September 2013, it was found that most cases of dissolution involved first marriages close to three out of four times.
Out of 3,310 surveyed, a total of 2,466 (74.5 percent) were leaving their first marriages. This points out that despite what is often said about second marriages having less of a survival rate, the higher-risk group for those who file for divorce are marriage first-timers.
As such, MDP has put together a tip sheet for how spouses in their first marriages can best avoid dissolution.
Transparency is essential to marriage success, and it's often something that marriage first-timers struggle with, according to MDP. "There is a tendency, especially in the beginning, to hold back from showing who you truly are to the other person," said a MDP rep. "Don't."
"Being open and honest about friendships -- especially friendships with the opposite sex -- as well as money matters, are at the very top of the list for factors that require transparency. Too often, couples go on secret credit card spending sprees or take a lunch date with a co-worker, who is of the opposite sex, and decide to play cover-up. This only gives the other spouse reason to be suspicious and untrusting. Couples, who share everything with one another, have a far greater success rate."
Realize Marriage Is Just The Start Of Your Dating Life.
MDP also recommends that marriage first-timers not forget the importance of dating. "Too often, there is a finish line mentality when it comes to getting married. You figure, 'Well, I got him or her, I can stop putting forth so much effort.' Unfortunately, this complacency can create serious problems in a marriage and cause both parties to look elsewhere for support and intimacy," the MDP rep said.
"Couples who realize that marriage is just the start of their dating life, tend to stay off our radar, because they're always changing the game and keeping things interesting."
Don't Avoid Conflicts.
Above all, MDP urges marriage first-timers not to avoid conflict. "So much of a successful marriage is about conflict resolution. If you never give yourselves the opportunity to work through problems, then the likelihood of breaking up over that first big fight increases," the rep explained. "We often hear spouses going through a first divorce talk about how it 'came out of nowhere,' because 'we hardly ever fought.' They don't realize from that statement that they should have seen it coming."
MDP notes that conflicts and conflict resolutions are another form of intimacy between couples. Being unable to deal with such issues in a healthy manner can create problems over the long term and eventually lead to signing divorce papers.
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