(PRWEB) November 20, 2013
Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) conducts research and offers helpful tips on a number of matters related to divorce and relationships. In the company’s latest tip sheet, they target the prenuptial agreement.
These types of agreements are designed to protect one or both parties’ financial interests in the event that a marriage doesn’t go as planned. Most experts caution against using them because they feel it can cast an unwelcome shadow on the marriage before the couple says their vows. Nevertheless, when lots of assets are involved, it can be advisable to consider this document prior to moving forward.
MDP recommends that any couple considering a prenuptial agreement take the following steps.
First, Schedule A Time To Talk.
According to MDP, there is no easy way for a person to tell a spouse-to-be that they want a signed prenuptial agreement. However, not addressing the issue doesn’t do anything to solve the problem. The company’s advice: “You’ve just got to take the step. Tell your spouse that you want to talk about a pressing matter that’s very important to you regarding your marriage. Explain that you love them and the idea of being married to them, but also note that there’s a lot at stake and that you just want to work an arrangement that is best suited to both parties,” explained a company representative. “Realize there is no easy way to do it, and then schedule the time to talk about it. This gives you a chance to plan what you’re going to say. Don’t go into it without planning, or else you’re liable to say the wrong thing.”
Secondly, Be Fair And Equitable.
When locked in conversation with a spouse-to-be, MDP notes that most individuals make the mistake of not being fair and equitable in their dealings. They approach the prenuptial agreement from the standpoint of “what’s-in-it-for-me” rather than as a caring and equitable preemptive strike against the decision to file for divorce.
“Look, if you want to marry this person, there has to be some give-and-take on the prenuptial agreement,” the company rep said. “If you’re trying to construct a prenuptial agreement that only takes care of your interests, then you should probably reconsider walking down the aisle. While you want to protect yourself, you’ve also got to honor the sacrifices that your spouse will make to step in to this life with you. Unfortunately, too often, the prenup is approached in the same way that a divorce settlement would be, and that’s just admitting defeat before you’re ever married. If you really love the person enough to marry them, then you want to take care of them. Make sure that shows in the agreement and your negotiations surrounding it.”
Finally, Sign Only When It’s Satisfactory To Both Parties.
MDP admits that a prenup is a hard sell to a budding relationship, and that’s just a reality that the persons who want them have to grow accustomed to; however, the documents are viewed in a much better light when they’re seen in good faith towards both parties.
“If either of you have reservations about the terms of the prenup, then don’t push through them and get married anyway. Take the time to approach this as a good-faith negotiation in which you both ‘get’ something from the agreement. It’s the only way to stave off possible future hostilities,” the rep said.
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