International Grief Therapist: Give up the New Year's Resolution: Be Honest with What Can Be Accomplished: 10 Tools to Implement Change

Internationally renowned grief expert, Edy Nathan, explains how creating closure in 2013 and being honest with what can be accomplished can lead many to success in the new year.

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Be honest with what can be accomplished

To be successful in the New Year, it is helpful to understand the hurdles faced and the accomplishments made in 2013

New York, New York (PRWEB) December 30, 2013

In a culture where mindfulness and being in the moment are heralded as the key to inner peace and joy, isn’t it curious that as 2013 comes to a close, people in the USA and Europe tend to create a roadmap of resolutions for the New Year. The talk of losing weight, joining a gym, finding a relationship, and changing jobs are just some of the promises made to the self, the family and friends. How often are the resolutions actually followed through?

Edy Nathan MA, LCSW gives an example of New Year resolution "fibs". Let’s look at the statistics of gym memberships from January to March. Bought in December, most newcomers arrive January 1 and by March most are out the door. Never to be seen again. Though the intention is there, the follow through is not. It is the follow through from intention to integrity that ultimately creates a platform for success in the New Year.

Endings and beginnings: The end of 2013 and the beginning of 2014. Don’t be a liar in 2014. Find the truth.

Nathan explains that too often a year is left behind without much thought. To be successful in the New Year, it is helpful to understand the hurdles faced and the accomplishments made in 2013. In order to do this it is important to create a roadmap for success in the new year.

5 Tools for Closure with 2013:

1.    Make a list of all accomplishments made in the year.
2.    Are there any regrets? If so, what were they and is there anything that can be done to clean them up? If there is, then do what is needed to reverse the regret into regrowth.
3.    What was learned in the year?
4.    What is the truth about how prior resolutions were handled? Of the resolutions, what actually occurred?
5.    Specify what changes were made that affected the mind, body, social interaction and work life. Were the shifts encouraging life transitions or were they compressing?

5 Tools For Beginnings and Success in 2014:

1.    Be realistic about what can be achieved.
2.    Tell the truth about the goals desired to achieve.
3.    Create a calendar of what will be accomplished: set up reminders about the dates, times and outcome desired. This can be done on any of your mobile devices.
4.    Picture the desired outcome. See it, plan it and make it happen. When obstacles get in the way, be spontaneous and a problem solver. Plans can take many twists it does not mean the ideal is dead. If one way does not work, try another.
5.    Push beyond the zone of comfort. If it’s comfortable, seems like the goal is diminishing, find ways to re-energize. Nathan states, "This includes bringing others into the creation of the goal and remember this is about your integrity."

And remember what Saint Bernard of Clairvaux said: "The road to hell is paved with good intentions."

About Edy Nathan:

Edy Nathan is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience specializing in the integration of psychotherapy and the world of spirituality. For two seasons she was the therapist on the A&E TV Show, "Psychic Kids". She holds Masters from both New York University and Fordham University. She has post-graduate training from the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy, The Gestalt Center and the Jungian Institute. She is a certified EMDR practitioner, regression therapist, certified hypnotherapist and grief expert. To find out more, visit EdyNathan.com.


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