5 tips for Those Who Are Dreading Mother's Day by Mango Salute Greeting Cards
(PRWEB) April 30, 2014 -- Mother’s day is a truly wonderful day, celebrating bonds between nurturer and child is both comforting in its primal roots but frustrating as many of us look at our own fraught mother-child relationships. The Stepford Wife stereotype has permeated even the most feminist of families to leaving both mother and children with an unfortunate array of feelings that range from the “I could have done a better to job” to “well this is the most detrimental relationship in my life”. Mango Salute Greeting Cards has taken this opportunity to explore 5 ways to start to heal a fraught relationships and make the day more enjoyable.
The troubled nature of these relationships are the result of expectations that haven’t been realized and failed attempts to communicate.
Here are five simple and effective ways anyone can positively communicate with that difficult relation.
1. If you are heading out to a meal or event in honor of Mother’s Day - set the expectations before you go, limit the time but phrase it positively.
This simply is sandwiching a scheduled time between two events.
When organizing the event state clearly how you are willing and able to give your attention and time to your relation but you have an obligation that requires your attention your departure at a particular time. Whilst you are disappointed this might cut into your time, it will make you more determined to make the time you can spend together more enjoyable.
2. Forget about the stereo types – Vanessa a Mango Salute author stated: “We seem to have a cultural image of mothers that smells of baking, home-made bread and unconditional love. The reality is so far from this stereo type."
Look at the people involved in detail. Paying attention to something that the other person will dote on or a tribute to a shared experience will only do great things. Stories of people who acknowledge the positive and loved moments like singing in the rain, the football game that was so memorable, a favorite flower or place are finding common ground to help rebuild a more positive relationship.
Bravado is wonderful, yet here understatement and thought in your message will be more powerful.
3. Be kind to yourself - Mango Salute Greeting Cards relationship expert preeminent Australian psychologist, Amanda Gordon explored the topic in great depth with us enlightening us with a simple yet powerful message: “Striving to be the perfect mother will not only cause you immense stress and a sense of failure, but may not be as useful to your child as you being good enough.”
So whether you’re the child or the parent – revel in the fact you have gone out of your way, praise yourself for the efforts you have made and forgive yourself any transgressions.
4. Safety in numbers - Get your siblings or wider community involved in organizing a meal. Divide and conquer is always a good rule of thumb.
A crowd or public event can allow both parties to do their duty by each other and still be passing ships in the night. Enough attention to feel acknowledged but a shared spotlight that keeps impending arguments or judgement to small snippets.
5. If you are not in the same city and a visit isn’t possible – write.
Struggling with relationships when you are both occupying the same space is not uncommon. So find a few minutes and utilize the postal system. Many find it can be both cleansing and constructive to have the uninterrupted communication provided by snail mail.
This is a favored technique of psychologists and counselors for starting to heal long established wounds so it must have some merit.
Mango Salute Greeting Cards wishes you all the happiest of Mother’s Days!
For more information about Mother’s Day and how it is celebrated around the world check out http://www.mangosalute.com
About Mango Salute Greeting Cards:
Mango Salute Greeting Cards was built on the importance of love and care, injury needing rectification, the power of apology, the need to work on all relationships and the need to avoid the bad while nourishing the good. Mango Salute has a new editing process that will make the whole adventure simple yet effective.
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Shoshana Jones-Resnik, Mango Salute, http://www.mangosalute.com, +61 404 312 778, [email protected]
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