“A therapeutic ‘fiblet’ is just that – it is therapeutic because it calms and reassures, reduces anxiety and protects self-esteem,” says NAPGCM President Emily Saltz.
Tucson, AZ (PRWEB) May 01, 2014
From our earliest days we are taught never to lie, especially never to our mother or father. However, a new survey of aging experts reveals that telling a “fiblet” can actually be therapeutic when adult children are faced with telling painful truths to aging parents with a cognitive impairment such as Alzheimer’s disease.
Over 90 percent of professional geriatric care managers surveyed say they have used or recommended the strategy to relieve stress and anxiety and protect self-esteem of an elderly person. The situation cited most in the survey by experts as an appropriate and helpful use of a “fiblet” is when a senior is refusing clearly needed care or assistance at their home. For example, telling an aging parent with Alzheimer's that a paid caregiver is coming to their home for their spouse’s benefit or for another concrete role can help them maintain pride and reduce anxiety.
Geriatric Care Managers help families and loved ones deal with some of the most sensitive and challenging issues when helping aging parents. In honor of Geriatric Care Manager month, which begins May 1st, the National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers (NAPGCM) is releasing the results of a survey on one of the most common and difficult situations faced by families. The survey was conducted among 285 professional geriatric care managers around the nation from April 16-21, 2014.
The following were most often identified by care managers as situations when it can actually be therapeutic to tell a “fiblet” to your aging parent:
#1 When they are refusing needed care/assistance at home. Telling them the caregiver is there for their spouse’s benefit or for another concrete role can help them maintain pride and reduce anxiety. (Identified by 83% of those surveyed.)
#2 When they can no longer safely drive and insist on doing so. Telling them their car is in the shop getting repaired can reduce confrontations. (68%)
#3 When knowing the cost of in-home care/help prevents them from accepting the needed service. (68%)
#4 When telling them about family problems that they can’t solve (unemployment, financial upheaval, divorce, drug abuse, incarceration) will only cause worry and stress. (64%)
Americans are increasingly challenged by the need to communicate difficult information to aging family members with dementia. According to the National Institutes of Health as many as 5 million of the 43 million Americans age 65 and older may have Alzheimer’s disease and another 1.8 million people have some other form of dementia. Among all people with dementia, many are believed to have a mixed type of dementia that can involve more than one of the disorders.
“A therapeutic ‘fiblet’ is just that – it is therapeutic because it calms and reassures, reduces anxiety and protects self-esteem,” says NAPGCM President Emily Saltz. “You would use a ‘fiblet’ only with parents who have a cognitive impairment such as Alzheimer’s disease,” Ms. Saltz added.
As part of the survey, geriatric care managers were asked to provide comments about their experiences in recommending the use of a “fiblet”. A universal theme of the comments was that family members should navigate this clearly delicate area with help from a support group or from an experienced professional care manager. Care managers also stressed that one should only use a “fiblet” to protect and support a family member rather than for personal benefit or gain.
The following are among over 200 stories collected through the survey about geriatric care managers’ experiences using of a “fiblet” in the course of their practices:
- “I've used therapeutic ‘fiblets’ in many instances but probably (most often) when the death of a loved one is beyond a person's capacity to understand. For example, if a person is looking for a deceased loved one, I tell them that I haven't seen that person today but when I do, I'll tell them that the person is looking for them. This serves to validate their experience and provide reassurance that someone cares.”
- “When an adult son was diagnosed with cancer, the decision was made to not inform his frail, memory-impaired nursing home bound father of the diagnosis. At the same time, the son increased his visits to his father during treatment as he had more free time available for visits. The son and father enjoyed more time together without stressing the father with a scary diagnosis.”
- “A client wanted to see their mother who had passed away many years ago. Instead of telling her that her mother had died and causing her to grieve "again" we told her she was out and would return later. She accepted that and went on with her day.”
About National Geriatric Care Managers Month
NAPGCM celebrates National Geriatric Care Managers Month annually in May by providing seminars, webinars and other special events to educate the public about the value they bring in helping people and their families with health challenges.
The National Association of Professional Geriatric Care Managers (NAPGCM) was formed in 1985 to advance dignified care for older adults and their families. Geriatric Care Managers are professionals who have extensive training and experience working with older people, people with disabilities and families who need assistance with caregiving issues. They assist older adults who wish to remain in their homes, or can help families in the search for a suitable nursing home placement or extended care if the need occurs. The practice of geriatric care management and the role of care providers have captured a national spotlight, as generations of Baby Boomers age in the United States and abroad. For more information please visit http://www.caremanager.org. You can also find a listing of professional geriatric care managers in your community at the NAPGCM website: http://www.caremanager.org and click on “Find a Care Manager”.