(PRWEB) June 05, 2014
Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) works with many individuals who have difficulty readjusting to their lives after filing. Many are in denial and feel like staying that way will keep them from facing some difficult emotions. In honor of these clients who have trouble with the recovery part of divorce, MDP has put together this tip sheet on how to move past the turmoil of today and into a brighter tomorrow. Here’s what they recommend.
Tip One: Don’t Minimize.
Fresh off the divorce papers, many divorcees have a tendency to minimize the severity of what they’re going through, feeling as if they don’t have a right to see the divorce for what it is, MDP states.
“There’s an illusion of toughness,” a representative explains. “If you minimize the hurt, then maybe it won’t feel so bad. This is a mistake because there must be acknowledgement before there can be true recovery. It’s okay to see the divorce for the hurtful episode that it is. It may not feel good breaking down that dam of denial, but it’s the first step to recovery.”
Ask, ‘What’s Next?’
Once the decision to file for divorce has been made and the individual lets their guard down long enough to grieve, MDP advises that person to ask the question, “What’s next?”
“By questioning the future, you’re taking the first steps to plan your way through it,” the rep stated. “You’re allowing your mind to be proactive, and if you play it right, that will lead to finding positive solutions.”
To truly “play it right,” MDP names two more essentials:
Find Your Support.
The company advises against “going it alone” when it comes to recovery. “Human beings were meant for companionship,” the rep said. “That may not mean the companionship of a marital partner or a significant other — in fact, if you’ve just divorced, you shouldn’t even be thinking about that — but it can mean a strong support unit of friends and family to help you through the painful parts.”
MDP recommends scheduling some “friend time” or hanging out with your closest family members more often in the immediate aftermath of the divorce. “They’ll see you through,” the rep added.
Last but not least, the company advises not to set unrealistic goals with your recovery. “Don’t say things like, ‘I’ll be over this in a year.’ Instead make more concrete goals and focus on the next thing instead of the next 10 things. Every day can be a small recovery, and over time, that’ll put you in the place where you need to be emotionally.”
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