In some ways, being selfish is good...
(PRWEB) August 12, 2014
Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) sees many clients who come to the decision of filing because one partner has been unfaithful, or they’ve been victimized by infidelity. While filing a divorce may end the marriage, it does not end the hurting, nor does it do anything to restore one’s self-esteem. For this reason, the company offers these tips for how to do just that following an affair.
Tip One: Be Single.
MDP urges clients who’ve been victimized by infidelity to not seek redemption in a new relationship. Explains a representative: “Dating again soon after the divorce papers are final may feel helpful in the short term, but all it really does is place the power of defining your self-worth in the hands of another person. You should instead grow comfortable with being single again and liking who you are. Remember, the affair was not about your failings as a human being. It’s about your spouse’s. If you were really the problem, then he or she would have come to you before betraying your trust and addressed any issues like an adult.”
Tip Two: Be Selfish.
In some ways, being selfish is good, the company notes. “By being selfish for a while after you file for divorce, you can come to terms with what behavior you’ll accept and what you won’t from another human being,” a rep explains. “You’ll also have some time to explore your own interests and hobbies, and that can lead to meeting someone who is more in line with your personality, which is almost always a recipe for relationship success.”
Tip Three: New Body, New Mind.
MDP notes that many clients get more active and drop weight following a divorce that was caused by an unfaithful spouse. “You are more than physical looks, so don’t judge your worth as a person based on how you look. That being said,” the rep notes, “exercising more, eating right, and losing weight can make you more satisfied with your looks, and that will only help your mind and your self-esteem when people begin to notice. And they will notice.”
Tip Four: Stop Seeking, And You Will Find.
MDP acknowledges that this tip may be a little contrary at first, but they’ve seen it happen enough to know. “When you are looking for someone new, you’ll almost always find the wrong person,” a rep explains. “When you stop looking and simply grow comfortable being you, that’s when you’ll find something worth holding on to, whether that means a new relationship, or just peace and happiness being on your own.”
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