MDP cautions parents not to take their child's feelings for granted.
(PRWEB) October 16, 2014
Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) understands the enormous strain that divorce can put on the family as a whole, especially the children. To aid concerned parents with how their children are reacting to the divorce, the company has put together a new tip sheet. Here are their recommendations.
Tip One: Don't Smother
After the divorce papers are final, it can be tempting to go into hover mode, MDP notes. Hover mode exists when a parent is so concerned about their child's well being that they fail to give the child space in working through their emotions. "Essentially," a rep states, "you try to overcompensate out of guilt, and children pick up on this. Whether you feel guilty or not, don't try to intrude on your child's emotions."
Tip Two: Keep It Civil with Your Ex
MDP urges clients not to drag their children into the tension between themselves and their spouses. "Even if your ex did something so horrible to you that they're deserving of ill will, complaining about it won't do your children any favors. If anything, it will just make them feel like you think that about them as well. After all, they are 50 percent your ex and 50 percent you. It's easy to see how they can take criticisms and animosity to heart."
MDP recommends being mindful of your triggers concerning your ex and to avoid situations where those become issues while the kids are around. It can be easier said than done, but it can also greatly aid kids in working through the divorce.
Tip Three: Show Respect for What Your Child Is Feeling
MDP cautions parents not to take their child's feelings for granted. "A child can show they're working through issues in a number of ways -- be it acting out or just speaking to you directly," a rep explains. "Don't dismiss their behaviors as if they're not indicative of a larger problem, and don't cut them off if they want to talk with you about the divorce. By employing discipline, structure, and warmth to your interactions with them, you can help them work through the divorce and become stronger as a result."
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