infidelity can lead the victim to behave in unhealthy ways, and if the memory of the betrayal is too overpowering it can lead to obsessive behaviors.
(PRWEB) October 23, 2014
Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) knows how diffi-cult it can be to save a marriage once one spouse has been revealed as a cheater. To help spouses deal with the infidelity of their partner, the company has put together a new tip sheet. Here’s what they recommend.
Tip One: Determine If You Want To Stay.
If you aren’t sure whether the divorce papers are the right decision just yet, think on it, MDP recommends. Explains a representative: “The deci-sion to stay isn’t an easy one to make, but neither is the decision to go, especially when children are involved. Either way, it’s going to take a lot of work to get yourself in the right frame of mind to move past it in a healthy way. Infidelity is the violation of a trust, and it continues to per-meate a relationship long after it’s been revealed.”
Tip Two: Staying Or Going, Realize That Healing And Trust Take Time To Reestablish — With Anyone.
MDP urges one to be understanding of the negative emotions they will experience whether deciding to stay or go. “Infidelity is betrayal, and it comes from the person who is supposed to be your closest confidante,” the rep explains. “If you stay, you’re going to have a hard time rebuilding that trust, and in order to do it, your partner will have to be as committed to transparency as you are to forgiveness. If you decide to go, it will be difficult to immediately put the past behind you without some work. It can continue to affect romantic relationships. Be prepared for that.”
Tip Three: Make The Decision That Forces You Away From Un-healthy Behaviors.
MDP points out that infidelity can lead the victim to behave in unhealthy ways, and if the memory of the betrayal is too overpowering it can lead to obsessive behaviors. “If you still feel the need to snoop on your spouse’s every move — if you feel angry to the point of violence — if you continue to feel bad about yourself because you can’t get the question of why out of your head — then it may be within your best interests to seek help or call it off. Don’t let unhealthy behaviors overrun you,” the rep said.
Tip Four: Don’t Look Back.
If you do decide that divorce forms are the answer, MDP recommends that you don’t look back or second-guess the decision. In the same sense, adds the rep, “You have to work towards the same attitude regarding your spouse’s affair should you choose to stay with them. Recovery and restoration of the marriage will never work if you let it to continue haunting the relationship. Be working towards true forgiveness every day.”
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