the worst thing for derailing a marriage counseling effort is the drive to be heard more than to listen.
(PRWEB) November 26, 2014
Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) may provide fast and effective ways to end a marriage, but it also understands the reluctance that can accompany such a decision. For any future clients who would like to give marriage counseling a try first, the company has created a new tip sheet with marital counseling tips to implement before the first day. Here’s what they recommend.
Tip One: Be Invested
If a couple hopes to avoid the divorce papers, then both need to be invested in the marital counseling. If it’s a one-sided decision, then the prognosis for the marriage’s survival isn’t very good, MDP claims. “Of course, if your spouse won’t go to marital counseling with you,” a rep says, “that shouldn’t stop you from going to counseling on your own. Divorce is a hard process and it can help having a professional to talk to.”
Tip Two: Arrive With An Open Mind
MDP notes that marital counseling can be difficult to accomplish since so many divorces are one-sided, as in the filer no longer wants to try. “If both parties are truly invested, then they will arrive at the counselor’s office with an open mind and a belief that the marriage can be fixed. They should also be as open to receiving criticism as they are to giving it,” the rep stated.
Tip Three: Be Willing To Listen More Than You Speak
MDP knows that the worst thing for derailing a marriage counseling effort is the drive to be heard more than to listen. Since many couples hold a lot of anger and aggression toward one another during the initial breakup, it’s easy to shut the other one out. “If you truly see a possibility of marriage counseling being effective, then you have to do your part to make it effective,” the rep says. “That means focusing less on the next zinger that you want to sail by your spouse’s head and more on the person you once loved — whom you may still love — hurting inside. What is causing them the pain? Is it something within your control or beyond it? How committed are you to mending the relationship? These are the questions that can drive you to listen more than speak, and they will give your marriage the best chance of survival.”
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