Rancho Santa Margarita, CA (PRWEB) December 14, 2015
Divorced parents do not have it easy around the holidays, and that’s even more true among those who are newly divorced. To assist these individuals in the holiday ahead, online divorce site MyDivorcePapers (MDP) offers the following top 10 tips for navigating this challenging time.
10. Make arrangements.
Tensions can be high after the divorce papers are final, so it is important to do everything in one’s power to keep from escalating the situation. That’s why MDP recommends coordinating with one’s spouse ahead of time to make sure that arrangements are understood for pickups and separate celebration times. It’s also important not to deviate from the schedule at the last minute unless it is an absolute emergency.
9. Plan a celebration.
One may not feel like celebrating amid a divorce, but MDP notes that it is important for divorced parents to continue doing so — not only for the children, but for their own outlook.
8. Encourage sharing.
Sometimes amid a divorce, children — particularly older children — can feel uneasy about talking about one parent around another. MDP advises parents to encourage an environment of sharing, so that a child does not equate tension with his parental relationships.
7. Take care of yourself.
Depending on how raw the divorce is, MDP acknowledges that it can be difficult to think about self-preservation, but it’s important to do so during the holidays. The site recommends shopping, taking in a favorite meal, or simply having a quiet and pleasant evening at home or with friends when the child is out of the home.
6. Let others in.
Friends and family want to help. MDP reports a higher level of happiness among divorcees, who spend time with friends and family after or during a divorce. The holidays are an especially prevalent time to do just that.
5. Establish new traditions.
Traditions are important for the child and for the parent because they establish a “new normal,” the site notes. It is a way of putting the past behind you and focusing on the future.
4. Stay positive.
This is another difficult feeling to maintain in the early stages, but MDP encourages divorced parents to accentuate the positives post-divorce — you’re rebuilding, you’re still healthy, your children love you, there are infinite possibilities ahead, etc.
3. Don’t be discouraged by setbacks.
While it is advisable to be positive, one should not suppress their sadness, MDP notes. It is okay to break down and have a quiet cry. The site notes that it may even be necessary to some degree for healing.
2. Take it one day at a time.
Rather than focusing on all the uncertainties surrounding divorce, MDP urges divorcees to focus only on the day ahead and making it the best day possible.
1. Focus on the future.
A divorce will never fully go away in one’s consciousness, MDP notes, but it’s also something best left in the past. As the site often notes, “The future is where your life is, so focus on that.”
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