For better or worse the relationship between you and your lawyer can become the critical aspect of your divorce.
Santa Barbara, California (PRWEB) December 31, 2015
2015 has been the year for the first stage of a powerful message about the legal process of divorce, flashed in a website with interactive tools for private and personal exploration. With the addition of the RoadMap Consultation being made available through the web this fall, attorney Brian H. Burke opened up a path for anyone to create a divorce plan tailored to their specific goals and values. The final addition is the Fee Analysis Consultation, an affordable opportunity to get a second opinion about the fees the lawyers are charging.
Burke's purpose is to guide people towards having a better divorce, but before focusing on the positives, Burke exposes fundamental problems and provides warnings. In his book "Divorce? Don't let the lawyers make it ugly," Burke has "pulled the sheets" on the divorce industry, which profits simply from the escalation of conflict. He describes how two lawyers turn a pair of schoolteachers–who were ready to part peacefully–into the classic "high-conflict" couple on their way to court. One can't read the story without getting a feel for that slippery slope, including plenty of clues for a smoother traverse.
For those getting a divorce, take a brief quiz: ask a few pertinent questions about how your divorce lawyer has managed your case so far. Get good prompts for the questions you should be asking your attorney. Perhaps, then, you won't follow the path of the two schoolteachers towards the courtroom.
The warnings: who knows what a "Toxic Divorce" is? Read the analysis of the Broderick divorce, ending in a double murder, in the Toxic Divorce monographs. Your case is unlikely to be toxic, and Burke explains why that is truly good news. You can afford to take time, be thoughtful, find a way to make life better even though you are in the midst of a mixed bag of changes.
The email series is designed to help people pace themselves, called "Preparing for Divorce". It is a useful tool even for family members who want to understand the tough questions, written from a lawyer's perspective, so that the first steps taken with a lawyer will be thoughtful and powerful.
There's more. Much has been written about divorce, and there is way too much carelessly given advice, but here is a set of tools to help people stick with their own values and preserve their finances.