Making a relationship last is not about luck or having financial success
Los Angeles, California (PRWEB) May 19, 2015
According to a new report by the University of Virginia National Marriage Project called Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America, declares " the age at which men and women unite in marriage is now at an all time high, age 27 for women, and age 29 for men."
The report revealed that Americans of all classes are postponing marriage to their late twenties and thirties for two main reasons, one economic and the other cultural.
Ninety-one percent of young adults believe that they must be completely financially independent to be ready for marriage.
There is an increasing number of working professionals with financial stability, abandoning the hope of marriage.
Hellen Chen, marital expert and bestselling author, whose recent book "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" became a bestseller in marriage and relationship books on Barnes and Noble, has a first-hand experience with men and women who have less than good luck in marriage.
"Somewhere along the last two decades, dating time has increased exponentially as marriage became less important." said Chen. "Most people think that a marriage is something that will automatically happen once they attain career achievements and have financial stability. This is so far from the truth. This is not how it was when our grandparents got married -- many of them in fact married with very little to their name."
Having developed the reputation for assisting those who have had tough luck to tie the knot, the unorthodox matchmaker said, "There is also the timing factor. A person may wish to have all his ducks in a row before considering marriage. But they will also miss marrying the right person, opting to put their attention on a career rather than on love."
Allison K. was a typical example of a highly successful professional who had put marriage on the back burner. She had mainly focused on her personal interests and career ever since she was in her 20's. She had turned down many suitors because they were "not good enough." After aging past 40 years old and finally wanting to settle down, she could not believe she didn't have any suitors to choose from.
"I was in shock. I did not realize I had wasted all my chances where I could get married." she said.
Later she approached Chen for help and finally got married.
"I would like to tell singles - no matter how much you have accomplished in your career, it does not replace the emptiness of not having that special person in your life." said Allison.
Chen talks about why modern dating is not working out, "Most people think there is always a better person out there. So they will spend 3-4 years dating, then break up, then spend another 3-4 years with someone else who they think is better and then break up again. And 10-15 years later, they accumulate only bitter experiences."
About the notion that it is better to wait to have more money before embarking onto marriage, Chen explained, "Family math is different. One plus one is always more than two. When you marry and then work together and produce together, you can create more economic stability."
Chen has also has seen countless marriages ending up in divorces, despite both husbands and wives being tremendously outstanding in their careers and being touted as the "perfect" couple.
"Making a relationship last is not about luck or having financial success or career success. It is an ability that needs to be learned, no different than learning about one's profession." said Chen.
To bring her message about managing love and relationships, Chen had given over 200 international media interviews, has publications in 20 countries and also actively holds training workshops to teach singles and couples how to improve the quality of love in their life.
Her workshop "Hellen Chen's Love Seminar" helps working professionals to have a lasting relationship and is open to both singles and married individuals.
Her next event will be held in Los Angeles on May 23. For registration details, please call 800-912-0510 or visit http://www.MatchmakerOfTheCentury.com