The time right after a divorce is final is a time that the parties involve get to look at their lives and make changes
Rancho Santa Margarita, CA (PRWEB) January 15, 2016
Since it’s now the peak season for filing, MDP has shared four tips that the newly divorced can use to navigate this tumultuous time. Here’s what they recommend.
1. Reconnect with something sacrificed.
Marriages — successful or otherwise — often involve the parties sacrificing something important to them. It could be something seemingly insignificant, a MDP spokesperson notes, like “keeping up with the NFL week-to-week or a favorite television show” or something major like “a career or beliefs system.”
“The time right after a divorce is final is a time that the parties involve get to look at their lives and make changes,” the spokesperson said. “Only this time, they’re not making those changes for the good of someone else. They’re on their own, and it’s a major opportunity for them to hit the reset button.”
That’s why MDP suggests that divorcees dig into their past and find something that once brought them joy but took a back seat in part due to the marriage.
“It may seem like you’re going backwards at first, but the reality is that you’re reconnecting to the person you were before the marriage. You’re going to need that person to help you move forward,” the spokesperson said.
2. Count calories and exercise.
While fad diets may work for some, MDP suggests avoiding anything outside of calorie counting and exercising immediately following the divorce. That’s because the odds are not often in favor of the dieter.
As Harriet Brown of Slate points out, most people who go on fad diets end up gaining weight instead of losing it, usually because the diet is not an actual lifestyle change.
This unfortunate statistic is why MDP urges divorcees to stick with what works.
“It may not be pleasant at first, but if you can get an accurate reading on your daily caloric intake, always eat under that number even if it’s just a few calories, and then do anything from light to heavy exercise multiple times per week, you’ll shed weight quickly, and that will make you feel better about the way you look and your outlook on life,” the MDP spokesperson said.
3. Learn how to be alone.
Being alone is often what scares divorcees more than anything as they prepare to leave their marriages, but MDP notes that it is actually a vital skill to ongoing growth and development.
“Many divorcees have to be alone for a while before they get comfortable with it, while others take to it immediately,” the spokesperson noted. “There is no right or wrong way to go about it. It’s just important that you do.”
Suggestions for “learning how to be alone” include focusing on favorite hobbies or television shows or meditation and other forms of spiritual edification.
4. Worry less about the other person.
What often impedes a divorcee’s growth and development post-divorce is the fruitless practice of comparing lives to that of their ex, MDP notes.
“It’s a form of self-torture that can really set you back,” the spokesperson explained. “Instead of giving into it, look for ways to make your life better. It really is true that the ‘best revenge’ is living well.”
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