The Coffee Date: The Hollywood Way to Make New Friends

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Hollywood Actress, Baby Boomer Advocate and #1 Amazon Bestselling Author, Joanie Marx, Has Uncovered Five Acting Skills That Help People Make Friends After the Age of 30.

Being open to making new friends, whether on social media or offline, is only the first step. The real issue for people over the age of 30 is whether room has been made in their life for new relationships.

It is no secret Americans are living longer and healthier lives than ever before. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, life expectancy is estimated to be 83 by 2050. People are living longer, plus according to the Stanford Center on Longevity, the rates of disability and poverty are lower today than in previous generations. These remarkable developments are having a dramatic impact on all areas of society, specifically in how those over the age of 30 are making new friends.

Hollywood actress, best-selling author and Baby Boomer advocate, Joanie Marx is determined to change the misconceptions people have of living a fulfilling life as they grow older. During research for her #1 Amazon bestselling book, “Facelifts, Money & Prince Charming: Break Baby Boomer Myths and Live Your Best Life", she began to see how the skills from acting could be applied to not only breaking many of the Baby Boomer myths she writes about, such as Baby Boomer dating, aging and how the Baby Boomer generation are portrayed in the media, but also how these skills play a role in making new friends after the age of 30.

Calling upon her vast experience from three decades of acting in Hollywood, along with her timely insight as a Baby Boomer Advocate, Marx, says: “Being open to making new friends, whether on social media or offline, is only the first step. The real issue for people over the age of 30 is whether room has been made in their life for new relationships. If so, what is the most effective and enjoyable way to make the most of new connections?”

When she discovered the answer to this question was in five specific skills she had honed during her career as an actress, Marx knew they needed to be reinterpreted and shared with those who could apply them in their lives, when and where it mattered most.

1 – “Know who you are: When preparing for a role the skill of knowing your character is rarely overlooked by actors, but the importance of knowing who you are is not always clear to people seeking someone to have a mutually fulfilling relationship with.” Marx goes on to explain that, “The experiences we go through in life change who we are, so by the time we are in our thirties, or even older, we are not the same people we used to be. In later stages of life, when meeting someone for the first time, knowing who we are carries more significance because we bring a lot more personal history to the encounter than we did when we were younger.”

2 – “Know what you want to accomplish: This isn’t just something actors require for a scene, it is vital to making new friends,” says Marx. “What our relationship needs are and what we want to accomplish with new connections carries more weight later in life than it did when we were younger. Being clear on our intentions can make all the difference.”

3 – “Know when to speak and when to listen: This is all about being present, which is a crucial skill for actors and anyone seeking to make new friends.” Marx goes on to say that, “The #1 thing in a friendship is mutual amount of talking and listening. Not every interaction needs to be 50/50, but to establish a good balance between talking and listening is key.”

4 – “Know what motivates you and others: Actors are notorious for asking, ‘What is my character’s motivation?’ but often get themselves into trouble when they overlook the motivation of the other characters in their scene,” explains Marx. “Whatever our motivation is for meeting new people, there is something motivating-the person we are interacting with. It’s our job to understand-what that-is-and determine if it is in alignment-with ours.”

5 – “Know what is at stake: This is a fundamental skill for actors in their scenes just as it is for people making new friends.” Marx points out that, “With longer and more abundant lifestyles, being aware of how and where new friends affect our life takes on a higher level of importance after the age of 30 than it did in our 20’s.”

About Joanie Marx:

A graduate of the University of California, Berkeley with a degree in Psychology, the multi-faceted career of Joanie Marx spans both the world of Hollywood and business. With thirty years as a full-time actress, she has appeared in several national commercials, and co-starred in dozens of television shows, films and stage plays. Along the way, she also founded and sold a multi-million dollar business. Her recent #1 Amazon bestselling book, “Facelifts, Money and Prince Charming: Break Baby Boomer Myths & Live Your Best Life”, boldly addresses 7 Baby Boomer Myths, and how to break them to create a new path for living one’s best life. For more information on Joanie visit and    

Schedule Interview: To arrange a candid and eye-opening interview with Joanie Marx call
818-317-4415 or email joaniemarx(at)earthlink(dot)net.

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