Discover what your partner's needs are, even if it is outside your comfort zone.
Chicago, Illinois (PRWEB) June 21, 2016
Allen Vaysberg has produced an anthem to love through the release of his new book ‘The New Love Triangle’, dedicating it to his wife. The book offers insights about the most fragile of all relationships-- a love relationship-- and reveals the strategies for making a partnership strong and stable.
From personal experience and a personal perspective, the author, in a quest to strengthen his own marriage, discovered the underlying universal reasons for relationship discord, and teaches readers how cracks in the foundation of most relationships will certainly cause tension at best, and unhappiness and estrangement at worst; and how to shore up a relationship through meeting needs in a new way.
“Most couples believe that if they just love someone, and are loved back, the relationship will work. I discovered that underneath the quest for finding reciprocal love lie two additional pillars that, along with loving a partner, will hold the structure of the relationship up. These two added pillars form the Triangle that the book title refers to,” Vaysberg says.
The author identifies these pillars as mastering self-love and finding ways to love each day. Without these two elements, loving another person, especially in stressful times, can be difficult and leads quickly to unhappiness.
Vaysberg reminds the reader that while the three pillars of love are essential, there is more that couples must address and understand before their bond is both strong and satisfying. Vaysberg describes how couples misconstrue the loving intention and heartfelt principles of ‘love languages’ as described in the book ‘The 5 Love Languages’, by Gary Chapman. While The 5 Love Languages book is meant for individuals to discover their partner’s love language and meet their needs through that discovery, all too often people focus more on the way they want to express love rather than how their partner wants to receive it.
“It is common for a partner to do things for their beloved in a way that is easy and natural for them to express it.” However, the author points out, these gestures may not be meeting their partner’s needs at all, and in the meantime, the real emotional unmet needs become the drum beat of a relationship’s demise. The author gives examples, through his own relationship, of how different love styles need to mesh. “Discover what your partner’s needs are, even if it is outside your own comfort zone. Once you start meeting their needs, joy will return to the relationship,” Vaysberg explains.
Allen Vaysberg is a Recalibration Expert and creator of the SEAMLESS method who facilitates people’s transition from unfulfilled and stressed to doing what they love and being at peace. He speaks on life purpose, career change, work-life balance and the recalibration process and runs online programs helping people re-calibrate their lives. For more information about the book visit http://www.TheNewLoveTriangle.com.
Amazon Book Review
“Do you remember a time when you were attracted to a book mainly due to its minimalistic yet attractive cover and was subsequently bowled over by the content inside (more so because the quality of the content was a real SURPRISE for you)? That was how my journey started with this book. It is also possible that I was sub-consciously attracted to this book because I have been going through a rough patch in my relationship life. This is one of those books which I will treasure for as long as I breathe. These 65 pages contain real nuggets of gold. One thing that this book made me realize is that loving oneself is not selfish but in fact a MUST in order to FEEL loved. I believe this was the missing piece in my life: all my life I was expecting others to love me while I neglected myself and my well-being. Highly recommended!” -Elizabeth