Survey Indicates Dead Girlfriend’s Ashes Are Not a Problem in Modern Love

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Respondents on Facebook survey reveal surprising attitude towards a relationship with a widowed lover wearing cremation jewelry and his girlfriend. The survey was conducted by OneWorld Memorials, the online cremation urns and memorial keepsakes company.

Infographic of Facebook survey by OneWorld Memorials

Survey: Love in the Time of Cremation Urns

I was convinced that someone in a relationship with a widow or widower would be very unhappy about their new love wearing a necklace filled with the deceased spouse's cremation ashes. But in fact people overwhelmingly expressed the opposite.

OneWorld Memorials, the innovative cremation urn and memorials on-line retailer, discovered through conducting a Facebook survey that people dating a widow or widower would likely find no problem with their significant-other if he or she was wearing cremation jewelry containing the ashes of the deceased spouse or had an urn with ashes displayed at home.

OneWorld Memorials posed the following question on its Facebook page:

"If you were in a relationship with someone and discovered they had the remains of their former spouse in their house or in jewelry they wore, would you:

a) Break off the relationship?
b) Ask them to get rid of the jewelry, keepsake or urn?
c) Not sure how you would react, but would be disturbed?
d) You wouldn’t be bothered by it "

The outcome, as shown in the accompanying info-graphic, revealed that most people didn't care (96%). "This came as a shock." said Ira Woods, the President of OneWorld Memorials. "I was convinced that someone in a relationship with a widow or widower would be very unhappy about their new love wearing a necklace filled with the deceased spouse's cremation ashes or having an urn prominent in the house. But in fact people overwhelmingly expressed the opposite. Many found this behavior to be a show of good character."

The survey was prompted by a discussion on the social forum, Reddit. A widower, who went by the name "Throw8726" had been dating a woman for a year who wanted to move in with him. He was overjoyed. His girlfriend then discovered the pendant he was wearing was created with ashes of his deceased wife. She told him to get rid of the pendant and the befuddled Throw8726 sought advice from the Reddit community. Over 450 people responded to his dilemma.

The use of cremation jewelry is growing rapidly in the United States. The reasons are obvious; In 1999 only 24.8 percent of the population chose cremation. This compares to 46.7 percent who chose cremation in 2014, according to the Cremation Association of America (CANA). CANA predicts that The U.S. cremation rate is expected to rise to 52.9 percent by 2019. According to a recent article in Time Magazine, cremation has now surpassed burial for the first time in the USA.

The growing acceptance of cremation is causing a sea change of behavior in the way we honor the deceased. For instance, the search for cremation jewelry, which can hold a small amount of ashes, has grown 7 fold since 2005 and continues moving steeply upwards today.

With people living longer, little stigmatization for being widowed and scant pressure to remain alone to conform to social expectations it’s not surprising to find situations like “Throw8726” becoming more common. If a widower decided to have a charm made out of his wife’s ashes would wearing it cause friction with a new girlfriend? According to our respondents, it should be a rarity.

About OneWorld Memorials
OneWorld Memorials provides quality memorial urns and related products, along with free shipping. OneWorld Memorials offers cremation jewelry, biodegradable urns, condolence gifts, and more. To learn more, visit http://www.oneworldmemorials.com

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