Parenting Expert, Shelli Chosak, Ph.D, Helps Moms, Dads Understand Parenting Styles and How They Affect Children in New Book, "Your Living Legacy"

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A new award-winning book “Your Living Legacy: How Your Parenting Style Shapes the Future for You and Your Child” by parenting expert, Shelli Chosak, Ph.D., gives parents helpful insight - and solutions - on how their personal style impacts their child’s development and the parent-child relationship. Dr. Chosak’s new online Parenting Quiz, based on the 5 most common parenting styles, of the 20 detailed in the book, offers some quick insight for parents.

New book offers parenting style insight and solutions by Shelli Chosak, Ph.D

Most parenting books focus on the child as the problem. My book asks “What can I do differently as a parent?

“Am I screwing up my kids?” is a question many parents consider at some point. Now, rather than just wonder and hope for the best, parents can find out how their personal parenting style is affecting their children and most importantly, what they can do about it.

Parenting expert, Shelli Chosak, Ph.D, ( offers parents new insight - and solutions - on how their personal style impacts their child’s development as well as the parent-child relationship in her new book, "Your Living Legacy", now available on her website and Amazon.

“I wrote “Your Living Legacy” to empower parents by increasing their self-awareness and help them gain confidence in raising emotionally healthy and successful children,” said Chosak, a psychotherapist specializing in family relationships for over 25 years. “The bulk of parenting books on the market focus on the child as the problem. My book asks “What can I do differently as a parent?”.

The book’s focus centers on the 20 different parenting styles Dr. Chosak has identified and the effects each may have on a child. One of the most unique and compelling aspects of the book lies in the self-assessments that enable the reader to identify their personal style, how that style looks ‘in action’ and helpful hints. Each parent usually recognizes a combination of parenting approaches in themselves. Parents will learn how to evaluate their style’s impact on the child’s development, as well as on the ongoing parent-child relationship.

Of the 20 Dr. Chosak has identified, the five most common parenting styles are:

  • Overprotective Parent: Goes overboard in an effort to save child from harm and show love for their child
  • Critical Parent: Regularly focuses on the negative—thinks it’s the best way to teach their child
  • Controlling Parent: Thinks parent always knows best and needs the child to conform to their wishes
  • Self-Involved Parent: Believes parent’s own needs and wishes are most important
  • Overachieving Parent: Needs child to excel--often pushes their own goals or interests on their child

To find your own parenting style, Dr. Chosak has created a quick online Parenting Quiz, based on the most common styles. To access the free quiz, go to “Your Living Legacy Parenting Quiz”. After submitting the quiz respondents will receive an “Answer Sheet” to score their responses and find their primary parenting style. A free, downloadable overview of the 5 Most Common Parenting Styles, is also available at

“Identifying your parenting style is an important way to understand and potentially improve the relationship, whether your child is a toddler or already an adult,” adds Chosak. “Relationships with your children don’t end when the kids are grown.”

Dr. Chosak’s new book provides helpful hints on other topics including improving communication, healing relationships, and letting go.

“Your Living Legacy “is an essential resource for any parent who wants to take advantage of opportunities for positive development and enduring relationships. It is available in paperback and e-book at or on Amazon.



"...The majority of the work is devoted to a comprehensive Parenting Styles Inventory outlining 20 different styles... Chosak urges readers to aim for objectivity, yet also remain compassionate in their assessments of themselves... Short chapters, clear writing, and abundant examples here make Chosak's a valuable reference... most parents will find mirrors of themselves, as well as good advice, throughout these chapters ... Sage words, but tough love, for mothers and fathers." --Kirkus Review

"Your Living Legacy is ... an eye-opener to enable parents to understand their parenting style and its impact on their children, to learn more about themselves, their children, and how to have a better relationship with them. The book is good for self-reflection and also how to learn from children, something which no book can teach. ...It is not only about improving parent-child relationships, but also about discovering yourself. The book builds awareness among parents and will also help them make positive changes in their parenting styles." -- Readers' Favorite Review

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Shelli Chosak. Ph.D. is an expert in human behavior. She received her Bachelor's degree in Psychology from U.C.L.A., her Master's degree in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and earned a California state license in Marriage and Family Therapy. She later returned to school and obtained a Ph.D. in Organizational Psychology.

Shelli maintained a psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles for 25 years, specializing in family relationships. She served as a consultant to the Los Angeles Superior Court Family Mediation Division (Conciliation Court) for over ten years, and counseled clients referred by the court classified as "difficult cases."

She was a regional coordinator for the California State Task force on Parenting and Families, a member of the California State Senate Judiciary- Family Law Advisory Committee and a delegate to the White House Conference on Families.

Dr. Chosak currently lives in San Diego and maintains a coaching and consulting practice. Her lifelong passion, in addition to her three grown children and five grandchildren, is discovering and sharing ways to achieve quality of life.

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