Parents need to be firm yet compassionate, and remember that they cannot afford to be their child’s friend all the time; they have to be their parent.
Battle Creek, MI (PRWEB) November 12, 2014
In its latest blog post, A Forever Recovery, an open-ended drug and alcohol treatment program that gets clients off to a great start and gives them a solid foundation in recovery they can believe in, is exploring a critically important topic: why some parents keep enabling their addicted child.
“While addiction takes a devastating toll on an addict’s physical, mental, emotional and even financial health, behind every addict there are family members and other loved ones who are going through living hell as well,” commented A Forever Recovery’s CEO Per Wickstrom. “And often, parents are shocked and horrified to acknowledge that, despite their good intentions, somewhere along the line, they began enabling their addicted child. It’s my hope that our latest blog post sheds light on this surprisingly common occurrence, and gives parents the confidence and clarity they need to truly be part of the solution – instead of unintentionally fueling the problem.”
According to the Best Drug Rehabilitation blog post, parents should keep the following in mind to avoid or stop enabling their child’s addiction:
- Don’t simply hand over cash and assume that their child is using it to see movies with friends, and so on. Ask for receipts.
- Don’t lie to teachers, the parents of other children, or their child’s employer (i.e. if they have a part-time job, etc.) in order to sweep troubling behavior under the rug.
- Don’t “go to bat” for their child by fulfilling their promises, doing their homework, and so on. This is fine once in a while and for good reasons (e.g. unexpected illness).
- Don’t argue with their spouse in front of their child about what to do/what not to do. Decisions should be made behind the scenes and parents should be united and consistent.
Added Per Wickstrom: “The theme of all of this advice, is that parents have to shift more responsibility and accountability onto their child – which will almost invariably lead to resistance and conflict. However, parents need to be firm yet compassionate, and remember that they cannot afford to be their child’s friend all the time; they have to be their parent.”
The full text of A Forever Recovery’s latest blog post entitled “I Am a Smart Person, Why Do I Keep Enabling My Addicted Child?” is available at http://aforeverrecovery.com/blog/addiction/smart-person-keep-enabling-addicted-child
About A Forever Recovery
A Forever Recovery program is an open-ended drug and alcohol treatment program that gets clients off to a great start and gives them a solid foundation in recovery they can believe in. Not every treatment methodology works for every client. Some people are very receptive to 12-step principles, whereas others are more comfortable with faith-based treatment. Cognitive approaches have excellent success, whereas others thrive within a more holistic approach. A Forever Recovery allows clients to choose from a wide range of recovery methodologies, coupled with Moral Recognition Therapy (MRT), to achieve success rates unmatched in the addiction treatment industry. The bottom line is that there is no single therapeutic approach to recovery that works for everyone… until now.
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