“Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it.” -Rabindranath Tagore
Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) June 17, 2015
June is a busy month for wedding celebrations around the world. Dr. Jackie recommends that soon-to-be-marrieds spend more time focusing on how to co-create a strong and lasting marriage than on wedding plans.
It seems that despite contemporary couples focusing on infusing their ceremonies and receptions with their own special brand of personality this wedding season, Dr. Jackie Black is concerned that they are not focused on learning and mastering the essential relationship success skills which will ultimately affair-proof and divorce-proof their marriages, and ensure happy, lasting marriages over time.
Dr. Jackie Black says, “Staying happy in a relationship and loving for years and years can be tricky at best. Men and women get sucked into the logistical ruts they know as their lives as husbands, wives, life partners, and taxi services to kids.”
Research strongly suggests that coaching specifically directed to engaged couples that aims to increase self-awareness and partner awareness, and strengthens the relationship so couples can resolve stressful and challenging issues and avoid others, can improve the chances for long-term success and significantly reduce the divorce rate.
Getting married without pre-married coaching is like getting behind the wheel of a car without driver’s education, or starting a business without a business plan. That’s why Couples in Trouble Relationship Expert, Dr. Jackie Black, suggests her marriage coaching programs for pre-married and long-time married couples.
Pre-Married couples can get prepared for the inevitable challenges, conflict and discontent that are normal and are to be expected when two people weave their lives together to create the rich tapestry we call marriage, by investing in one or more of Dr. Jackie's marriage coaching programs.
Having successfully coached hundreds of couples since 1999 to reconnect and co-create the marriages that make them feel happy and deeply satisfied, Dr. Jackie Black invites couples married only a few weeks, to those married for a number of decades, to declare June their month to renew their marriage; to reconnect to each other and recommit to whatever will nurture and support their life and their love-life for many more years.
Dr. Jackie champions couples everywhere to make these three activities their top priority to reignite the spark, no matter what life may have dished out since their wedding day.
1: Make Time to Connect
Decide on a specific time and a specific place (it can be a room in your house) to sit together and just BE for a few minutes (it can be as little as 6 minutes). No problem-solving or multi-tasking permitted. Make sure you are touching in some way: link little fingers, sit side-by-side so your shoulders are just barely touching, or sit face to face so your knees are touching. “The most gentle touch can be transforming, especially if it has been a long time since you last, really connected with each other,” says Dr. Jackie.
2: Remember What Used To Be Fun and Go Do It
Think back to when you first started dating. What did you enjoy about being together? What activities did you both enjoy doing that you no longer make time to do? If you asked yourself or your partner right this minute why you fell in love in the first place, how would you answer? “Both partners must carve out quality, alone-time together every week, take responsibility for it, and ensure nothing gets in the way of planned time together,” Dr. Jackie maintains.
3: Find Out What’s New With Your Partner
When you’ve been married for a while, you think you know everything there is to know about your partner. You would be mistaken. Let your curiosity about what’s new for you and what’s new for your partner rise up and take the time to inquire within together! Resist commenting, questioning, judging or otherwise engaging your partner in the details of their sharing what’s new. “Let the knowing of what’s new be the rich result and the special gift of your inquiry,” says, Dr. Jackie.
“This is a much better path to happiness and a far less costly approach than the ‘conscious uncoupling’ making headlines by celebrities,” Dr. Jackie says. “Let’s face it. The path to love’s bloom can take a sharp detour from happily ever after to dread because of bills, dirty laundry, and competing needs and priorities.”
About Couples in Trouble Marriage Educator and Coach Dr. Jackie Black
Jackie Black, Ph.D, BCC is an internationally recognized marriage educator and coach who serves couples in trouble who are serious about doing what it takes to stay together through her marriage coaching programs. Named by COSMOPOLITAN magazine as one of their most beloved international love gurus, Dr. Jackie guides couples out of trouble to reignite the spark in their marriages step by step and day by day. Hundreds of happy clients around the world turn to Dr. Jackie’s programs to save and improve their relationships. Dr. Jackie is a frequent guest expert on radio programs throughout the U.S. and Canada and on Internet radio and is regularly cited in major magazines in the U.S. and abroad. To interview Dr. Jackie Black, engage her to speak, and/or to access her gift eGuide offering 3 Fast + Fun Ways to Reignite the Spark in Your Marriage TODAY, visit http://www.drjackieblack.com.