Finding the silver lining is not about ignoring the reality of your life - it’s about recognizing that amidst the ashes burns a flame of hope.
MONTREAL (PRWEB) August 29, 2020
When professor and author Randy Pausch was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, he accepted his fate - perhaps with greater ease than most people would. Rather than become melancholic, however, he put together a final lecture in Carnegie Hall in which he offered simple yet deep advice on achieving one’s dreams. Randy Pausch took a negative situation and turned it into something that inspired millions of people worldwide. This inclination to seek out the blessings in an otherwise terrible situation can be powerfully cathartic, and has many other psychological advantages, according to research conducted by PsychTests.com.
Analyzing data from 12,259 people who took the Emotional Intelligence Test, researchers compared “Silver Liners” to “Downers” (people who are unwilling and/or unable to look for the bright side of negative situation) on different EQ competencies. The differences were staggering. Silver Liners scored significantly higher than Downers on a number of traits and skills, including the following:
(Note: Scores range on a scale from 0 to 100).
- Silver Liners are happier and more satisfied with their life (score of 72 vs. 50 for Downers).
- They are more resilient (score of 83 vs. 56 for Downers).
- They manage stress better (score of 79 vs. 52 for Downers).
- They have stronger self-esteem (score of 77 vs. 56 for Downers).
- They believe in themselves and in their ability to achieve success (score of 78 vs. 58 for Downers).
- They are open-minded and have a more flexible mindset (score of 79 vs. 65 for Downers).
- They are more perseverant, have a stronger drive to succeed, and are always striving for self-improvement (score of 86 vs. 65 for Downers).
- They are more self-aware - of their strengths, weaknesses, values, and motivations (score of 75 vs. 52 for Downers).
- They are able to let go of minor annoyances (score of 85 vs. 69 for Downers).
- They know how to pick their battles (score of 72 vs. 59 for Downers).
- They are better at resolving conflict (score of 75 vs. 55 for Downers).
- They have a good understanding of human nature (score of 79 vs. 66 for Downers).
“Trying to find the silver lining in a bad or traumatic situation is challenging and easier said than done,” explains Dr. Jerabek, president of PsychTests, the parent company of Queendom. “We become so fixated on the negative aspects that it seems impossible to pivot our mind toward something positive. But finding the silver lining is not about ignoring the reality of your life - it’s about recognizing that amidst the ashes burns a flame of hope. It’s about realizing that good can still come of a bad situation. Every painful or harsh lesson in life is an opportunity to learn and grow, and to gain the strength to tackle future challenges. Think back to the worst times in your life. What do you know now that you didn’t know then? Did it change your perspective? What lessons did you learn that you can now apply to your life? How have these experiences made you a wiser, stronger, or better person? How can you use your adversity or trauma to improve your life, or someone else’s? Take the time to really dig through the crap to find the silver lining - there will always be one - and continue to nurture this ability. It can really change your mood, mindset, and life in general.”
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