3 Essential Tips For Becoming Effective Co-Parents
(PRWEB) March 11, 2015 -- Online divorce service MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) knows that for many parents who end up divorcing, it’s impossible to simply shut the other person out of their lives and move on. That’s why the service has put together a new tip sheet helping recently divorced parents find a way of co-parenting that maintains the peace and provides an edifying environment for children. Here’s what the site recommends.
Tip 1: Define The New Relationship You Have With Your Ex.
MDP acknowledges that it can be uncomfortable using the word “relationship” in the context of an ex, but that’s exactly what it is. A relationship does not have to be romantic, the site notes, pointing out that it’s a simple interaction between people, and for that interaction to be rewarding — in this case, it’s a help to the child instead of a hindrance — it needs to be defined.
A rep further explains: “Talk to your ex about what your interactions with one another should be like going further. Identify the areas where you may struggle and work together to find workarounds that enable you to be good parents to your children - parents who don’t get into knock-down drag-out fights and selfishly pull your children into it.”
Tip 2: Set Boundaries.
MDP sees divorce papers can throw many family dynamics into disarray, and the reason this occurs so often, the site notes, is because the parents fail to set boundaries for their new lives moving forward. As the rep notes, “If you’re going to handle the divorce yourselves, then you need to have a degree of civility to the way that you interact. That won’t be easy without boundaries. Eventually, one or both of you will want to date again, you’ll want to enact your own parenting styles and such — these aren’t decisions that can be made in a vacuum but at the same time, you can’t expect your spouse to kowtow to your way of doing things all the time, and vice versa.”
Tip 3: Listen To Your Kids.
MDP believes that no matter how hard one thinks their divorce is personally, it’s always hardest on the children, and that’s because they are dealing with parental complexities that their young minds aren’t prepared to handle, the site notes.
The rep further explains: “Talk to your kids. You don’t want to bring them into your arguments or differences that you may have with your spouse, but you do want to know what makes them comfortable and what makes them uncomfortable when it comes to your interactions with your ex. Don’t think that you’ll ruin them if you have a complex human conversation about the new normal in their lives. Listen to what they have to say. Talk to your ex about what they have to say. Be honest about everything, and try to set up a situation that puts the child’s needs and desires first.”
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