MDP Shares 3 Tips For What Comes Next After Your Spouse Cheated
Rancho Santa Margarita, CA (PRWEB) January 14, 2016 -- MyDivorcePapers.com (MDP) provides affordable divorce forms for those looking to file for divorce due to issues such as infidelity. To help readers the the question of what should come next, MDP has put together a new tip sheet. Here's what they recommend.
Tip 1: Examine How The Infidelity Came To Light.
MDP realizes that it can be confusing on the cheated-on spouse to determine which course of action is the proper one to take. In the site's experience working with couples who faced this moral conundrum, there are essentially two options on the table – staying together or splitting up – and each can be contingent on the circumstances regarding how evidence of the infidelity came to light. A rep explains.
"Generally, if the cheating spouse brings it up on their own volition and they're willing to work on the marriage, this is a good sign for the couple staying together. That's because their proactvity indicates regret and a willingness to reform. At this point, it becomes a question of whether the victim-spouse wishes to give it a try or not. If the issue is discovered by the victim-spouse and only then does the cheater fess up to it, this is generally a bad sign for the long-term viability of the marriage. The cheated-upon needs to know their spouse is sorry for doing the deed, not for getting caught at it, if there is going to be any trust reestablished."
Tip 2: Staying Together Requires Total Honesty.
MDP notes that honesty is a requirement of both parties if the marriage is to have any hope of working out. The cheater needs to own the decision and the motivations behind it, and they need to have genuine remorse and a willingness to work harder at being transparent, the site states. Meanwhile the victim needs to be hones with their feelings about whether reconciliation is possible.
The rep adds: "It's not easy, but if the victim wants the marriage to survive, they need to be willing to look at signs of remorse and transparency and not continually judge the present partner by their past actions. In other words, there must be progress from both sides if the marriage is to have any chance of surviving."
Tip 3: Divorcing Works Better With Cooperation.
Lastly, MDP urges couples who decide to divorce as the result of infidelity to not let the infraction poison the well when it comes to an amicable breakup. The rep explains.
"Once a person decides to get a divorce, they're best served by keeping the infidelity in the past or on the back burner. Ending the union should become about efficiency, and the best way to attain that is through collaboration. You should each treat the settlement as a negotiation to do no harm — neither to each other or any children that may be involved. That means knowing what you want, what you don't want, and what you're willing to accept."
MyDivorcePapers.com provides affordable divorce forms solutions for those looking to file for divorce. Paperwork can be completed and compiled in 45 minutes for immediate use.
Brandy Parslow, McClain Concepts, http://www.mcclainconcepts.com/, +1 (949) 630-0387, [email protected]
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