National Grief Expert's 7 Questions to Ask When Grieving a Relationship
New York, NY (PRWEB) July 30, 2013 -- Ever experienced an intense sorrow? Ever known what suffering with a sense of ruin is like? Ever shared part of the self with another only to realize that to hold onto that shared relationship will create further misery?
It is never easy to understand how relationships gone bad tend to result in a deep and mournful grief. Grief is all around us. When a relationship ends, dissolves and creates internal angst, there is only one path to take.
It is time for a relationship between the self and the self. This type of grief invites and demands the depths of personal confrontation. It is far easier to do the jump from one relationship to another. Serial monogamy is better than meeting and dating the self.
Grief expert, Edy Nathan MA, LCSW-R, suggests to people who are mourning the end of a relationship to give themselves the time to confront the self about what went wrong and how they participated in the demise of the mourned relationship.
7 questions to ask and begin the self-confronting conversation (this is a time for honesty):
1. (This is about the person being grieved for) What are the physical, emotional or psychological similarities to others? (Think parents, siblings, aunts, uncles etc) There is a lot of information here!
2. What was lost inside of the soul that got disowned? (Think deeper)
3. How did sex change as the relationship changed? (Be honest here!)
4. What role did sex play in the relationship: was it used to diffuse issues? (How else was it used?)
5. What attempts were made to reconcile or change the relationship? (A real attempt or an attempt out of choosing the status quo?)
6. If blame is taken off the table, what part of the self participated in the break-up? (Take a look at a mirror)
7. If dating the self is an opportunity to understand the choices made in the future, what kind of time needs to be devoted to dating the self before moving on to real dating? (How long can you keep a plant alive?)
There are choices. There is a learning curve here. Continue to repeat the same pattern or do it differently. Don’t stay in the fear of the dark. When darkness of grief appears, it is an opportunity to meet parts that have been unknown.
Open each eye to see what is needed to see. Meet the self and have an opportunity to be in the grief differently. The grief becomes a place of learning and evolution. Move from Grief to Grace!
About Edy Nathan MA, LCSW-R:
Edy is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience specializing in the integration of psychotherapy and the world of spirituality. She is a former TV star on the A & Show, “Psychic Kids” and holds Masters from both New York University and Fordham. She has post-graduate training from the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy, The Gestalt Center and the Jungian Institute. She is a certified EMDR practitioner, regression therapist, certified Hypnotherapist and grief expert.
Edy Nathan, Edy Nathan MA,LCSW, http://www.edynathan.com, 2125397557, [email protected]
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